The 2 Reasons People Fail To Make Change Permanent

If you want to make a big change in your life it’s really important to understand what the critical things are to make it stick! We’ve all tried to change a habit only to go back to the old way a couple of weeks later – but why? And how do we change that?

The first reason people fail to make a change stick is simply, a lack of grit. In other words, we now live in a world of instant gratification – when we want to feel better we post on Facebook, send a text, call a friend, or order fast food. This has led to an ever-decreasing number of resilient people, people who can stick things out and overcome a challenge. Making a big life change can be hard and it generally takes time to see the results (think changing your diet, giving up sugar or smoking, etc.). The results generally don’t come straight away so it’s easy to throw in the towel.

The second main reason people fail to make changes permanent in their lives is that they fail to change their identity. For example, if you start going to the gym but still see yourself as a “lazy” person you’re going to be fighting yourself every day to go and eventually (or sooner) you run out of willpower. So to make change permanent we need to literally change who we are – there’s an old saying “Your outer world is simply a reflection of your inner world.” What this means is when you start seeing yourself as a fit, healthy person you’ll start a

citing like one consistently and when you do that over a period of time you’ll start to look like one.

How do we fix these things and make change stick?

There are a million things you “could” do but let’s focus on the two that I believe will make the biggest difference for you.

1 – Change your environment. The number 1 thing to help you with both of these things is to spend more time with people who have what you want. Eg: If you want to become healthier and happier – hang out with people who are healthy and happy! Over time their habits and beliefs will rub off on you and you’ll adapt. Imagine trying to quit smoking while hanging around smokers all the time – much harder right?

2 – Positive self-talk. Figure out who you need to be to do the things you need to do and pop an I AM in front of them. We’re going to use repetition to change the way your subconscious brain thinks about yourself.

Eg: I AM strong both physically and mentally

I AM an amazing healthy role model to my kids

I AM happy and grateful for all of the amazing things in my life

Come up with a list of 5-10 and say them to yourself multiple times a day starting with first thing in the morning 🙂

And don’t forget, If you Change Nothing, Nothing Changes!